There is an old saying, give someone a fish and they'll eat today, teach someone to fish and they will eat for the rest of their life. Now that is what I am aiming at.
Jesus came not to give us cheap grace as the Lutheran pastor and martyr Dietrich Bonhoeffer often said, but divine grace which is the path to the kingdom.
Jesus wants us to be mature Christians, upright and mindful of the well being of others. He wants us to be kind, gentle, meek, and mild, but he also wants us to be responsible for our actions.
Jesus gave us the ultimate act of responsibility by going to the cross. The cross is the gospel way of showing love which is a hard pill to swallow for most of us. Divine love seen in total sacrifice and humility.